No matter how hard I try to fight it, I am a die-hard romantic. I am still waiting for that guy that is going to completely blow me away: mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. A guy that proves his worth to me by doing nothing else but showing me how much he loves me in his thoughts, words and actions. And like all things good and beautiful, love is reciprocal. I will love him to the best of my ability, both of us making mistakes, but as long as we are both patient with each other things should work out for the good of both people.
It is so easy these days in light of societal pressures and social media hashtagged weddings, to get caught up in the notion of having a world wind romance. This never happens because your expectations were unrealistic from the start. On the flipside, realizing the quality of men we have – you believe that you'll never find your one or that love in itself does not exist.
Personally speaking, I've been pushed to either end of the spectrum, but what has been made very clear to me is that as a woman, you must know your worth, you must know what you bring to the table and do not let anyone for one second try to make you think your crazy (I hate that word), for fighting for what you think you deserve.
I can promise you that if you are not clear on either of those points, some guys will ‘try their luck’ to see how far they can push you, how much rubbish they can get away with before you snap (if you ever do snap). If you accept ridiculous behavior or misconstrued notions on what goes on in a relationship, you will continue to remain unhappy by virtue of the fact that you did not stand up for what you wanted.
However, you do need to remember that we all come from different backgrounds and schools of thought. You might meet a person who thinks completely differently to you. Sometimes you might be able to reach a compromise, but on issues that truly matter to you, if you both cannot seem to agree, you will have to accept that maybe that is all he is able to offer. If it is not enough for you, this guy might not be the right one for you.
My #star, feel confident in who you are, in what your needs are and in what you want before another person decides to dictate what they are.
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