Have you ever been that girl that is really feeling this guy but he keeps saying that he wants something casual or doesn't want to be in a relationship but you still fall for him. No matter how many times he tells you he doesn't want to move to the next stage, you keep holding on hoping you will be that girl that will change his mind. If yes, then welcome to the Ms. Pend Club! I used to be the President. I resigned recently, and so should you.
At different stages of my life I have definitely been Ms. Pend. There was this one guy I really liked. We were really good friends, let’s call him Osé. Osé and I would talk for hours on end and spend countless weekends together. We laughed and bonded on music, family, and life in general. However, what ever became of our friendship? I waited for him to make the first move, until one day I had enough and I asked him outright, "are things between us going to go any further than just friends?"
He replied in the negative stating that he wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship. He complemented me on the woman I am and how I don't play around and he didn't want to lie to me and say he wanted something he didn’t. Blah, blah, blah, right?
Well at the end of the day, he moved back to Nigeria and he was in a relationship in less than three months. So much for "not being ready." I learnt two very important life lessons.
1. The first is that being proactive is definitely the way forward, and believe it or not, you might get a very honest answer from the guy.
2. The second is that when a guy likes you, like he is really into you, he will make it known. If he takes you and what you both have seriously enough, he will take things to the next level.
So please my female #stars, there is no need to be waiting for that one guy, even if you've convinced yourself that you really don’t like him and you are just friends. Please let him go and move on with your life. The right guy for you might be just around the corner or right under your nose.
Have you ever been a Ms. Pend?
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To all my male #stars out there, even though you want to "take things super chill," don’t end up like NeYo and miss out on the love of an amazing woman.
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