Oprah was recently interviewed at Stanford Graduate School of Business, where she was asked some very hard, insightful and pertinent questions. Here are a few lessons I have learnt from one of my favorite people.
1) Everyone on this earth has a purpose, their own destiny they are yet to fulfill. In order to figure out what your destiny is, you are going to have to trust your "emotional GPS system," your instincts. When you feel within yourself that where you are is not right for you, then do something to change it. How best to find out what suits you, if not through experience.
2) Every human being, no matter what race, skin colour, or socio-economic background, all seek one thing - validation. It is the reason why we do the things that we do and make the decisions we make. We are eager for that one person or group of people to say, ‘you did good.’ Oprah says validation in short, boils down to three questions, “did you hear me, did you see me, and did anything I just said mean anything to you?” Well now that you know that, what’s next?
According to Oprah, it is important to be aware of this as she realizes now, the reason why she left one of the first jobs she got, was because she did not feel validated. That difficult decision got Oprah her next big break. Where you are right now, at work, in your relationships, do you feel validated? If not, start finding ways to remedy that, your opinion matters!
3) Oprah believes that her destiny is to lift the consciousness of those that watch her TV programs or interviews. Make them learn something about themselves or about their current situation. In essence, feed the soul. I think this is something we can all apply in our personal lives. If someone was to come in contact with you, when they leave your company, how do they feel? Happy, sad, depressed, content? Most importantly, how would you like them to feel? The only way to make yourself a "point of light" in someone’s life (coined phrase from Tyler Perry) is by working on yourself and being happy with, and in whom you are. Once you are happy, you naturally exude positivity and joy!
4) We witness people's success and we wonder how they got there. We ask ourselves was it by luck, was it by connection? You'll find that some of the greatest success stories boil down to one thing: when opportunity meets preparation. What are you doing now to prepare yourself for your future?
5) Lastly, you need to keep calm. I feel it is human nature, especially nowadays, to always be in a hurry, always trying to move on to the next big thing. Be it marriage, promotion, a big deal, a huge project, a new company. In that constant rush hour of life, we do not take the time to appreciate where we are and how far we have come. We are constantly plagued with worry about tomorrow. Oprah says that she would have told her younger self to "chill, relax, everything is going to be okay." So "chill, relax, everything is going to be okay.”